When we start creating our vision, all sorts of ‘next steps’ jump up at us.
- I’ll need to retrain (or at least go back to college)
- I’ll need about £10,000
- I’ll need at least a day a week not being at work
I have to remind myself to forget these thoughts.
I have to just start with where I am, with what’s already around me, with the time I already have.
I thought I needed to learn creative writing, so I started googling writing retreats. I would think about my annual leave and when I could take it and whether it would work with the dates that my colleagues have booked off.
Then I would get stuck.
Actually, I just needed to write. Open my notebook, then and there. Schedule a slot in the diary and sit in front of my computer at the appointed time.
I thought I needed to train as a public speaker. I wondered what kind of person I should get in touch with and whether someone I knew already could help me.
Actually, I needed to sit in silence and ask myself: If I could speak on anything, what would it be? What could I stand on stage and speak about for hours, this moment. And to whom?
Then start drafting speeches. Then start practicing.
Some parts of the dream, I grant you, may need the time, money and studying aspects. But so often I’ve found myself NOT acting because I’m convinced that the next step is one I can’t take until I have more information or a large sum of money.
There is always a next step you can take now.
Working it out requires us to be patient, think creatively and break it down into tiny elements. It challenges us to uncover the essence of what it is we want. It challenges us to look around and ask ourselves: What part of my dream can I begin HERE and NOW?
In my dream life, I saw myself dancing regularly. And at the time I started my visioning, I wasn’t dancing at all. I couldn’t remember the last time I danced.
My coach said to me: What dancing could you do? And I’d thought about ballroom dancing and lessons but I hadn’t committed to it. I thought I hadn’t had enough money (in fact, I didn’t have the right priorities).
I was puzzled that she picked up on the dancing. After all, wasn’t the most important aspect doing work I loved, getting out of the job that was wearing me down?
Yet, I realised, in my 'dream life’ I dance regularly, so stepping closer to that actually made more of a difference to my life than quitting my job. A delicious taste of the type of life I craved.
Dancing every week gave me a lift in spirit that £10k wouldn’t have been able to touch. Dancing filled my soul with light and kept me focused. Dancing helped me feel good and feeling good gave me confidence. Dancing propelled me forward by giving me insight into what it is that makes us happy: being in situations, mindsets and putting time and energy into the activities we love.
A taste of what you’ll do in your dream life gives you feedback. A taste shows you the opportunities to fine-tune and opens you up to more.
What is the dream you want? What can you do today to have a taste of your vision?