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One of the biggest challenges for me on my journey of healing and growing was learning how to think.
I can't remember how old I was when I heard about the book The Road Less Travelled by M. Scott Peck. I don’t think I even read it. But I do remember the first sentence was 'Life is difficult'.
It put me off. I already knew that life was difficult. What I wanted to know was how to make it easier.
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We get to choose everything in our lives.
Everything. Every day, everything is a choice.
But when we have no frame of reference - or even concept - of our own power because we've spent our lives thinking that we don't have a choice, it's tough to see how you can 'choose' abundance of love or excitement or money or fun.
Read MoreI was speaking with a lovely lady a little while ago and she was wondering if it was all going to be worth it, if she ditched her job and landed herself with the dream.
She said one of her fears was stepping out, making a big move overseas and then facing 'the same old sh*t.'
Honestly? The answer is - no. And yes.
Read MoreEveryone says they can't do the thing they want to do. Do you? They have a reason:
Lack of time.
Lack of money.
Lack of know-how.
My story starts in the church; I grew up in a fundamentalist environmental, where there was a prominent ‘us’ and ‘them’ mentality, the ‘saved’ versus the ‘unsaved’.
Churchgoers versus the ‘unchurched’.
It was deliberate because the bar to entry was belief in Jesus and it was particularly strong in the tradition which the church I attended had grown out of.
When I found out that my (recently ex-)boyfriend had committed a serious crime, I didn’t choose to leave straightaway.
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*according to me.
1. Self-doubt. Constant doubt. Imposter syndrome. This affects their self-esteem, their relationships, their ability to take action.
2. A difficult relationship with resources (money, time etc). Thinking there's not enough for everyone. Not being able to think creatively. Fear of the consequences of saying no.
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One of the most powerful things I've watched recently was the documentary 'I am Malala' - about Malala Yousafzai's story.
Although I had been following the news as it came through at the time, there was quite a lot about the family's Islamic faith and the history of the family that I hadn't been aware of.
I received it with some mixed feelings, seeing a young spiritual girl, who'd grown up within a patriarchal religion (albeit with a strong sense of self) standing up for equality, speaking her truth. I identified with some of her words and thoughts from my own experiences, other parts, way beyond my comprehension and experience.
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Ohhhh we've all been there, staring into space, getting lost down a google rabbit hole, mindlessly scrolling social media hoping to start feeling inspired again.
When that doesn't work? I have some suggestions! Here's 16 of them...
1. Change your style. Invest in a new piece of clothing (one that you wouldn't usually go for. Or revamp your entire wardrobe. Or wear something you haven't worn in a long time. Or try out a new look with what you have.
2. Declutter anything (anything!) in your life. Your kitchen drawer. Your car. Your garage. Your garden. Your jewellery box. Your phone apps. Your desktop.
Read MoreSince I can remember, attempting to attract and retain female board members, directors and CEOs has been a priority for forward thinking and discerning companies. And concurrently, since I’ve been a teenager, I’ve been aware of the disingenuity of taking these steps merely to fulfil quotas and create the appearance of equality. Yet if we look beyond gender and look at attributes of feminine leadership (not female leadership - but feminine leadership) I suggest there is a deeper need for truly feminine leadership across every board of directors in Britain, particularly in service based businesses. Perhaps that will allow more women to easily find their places at the top.
What is feminine leadership?
Feminine leadership promotes the qualities that we may not typically associate with business. Empathy, vulnerability, sensitivity, intuition: these are not traits that we add to our job specifications for CEO or CFO perhaps.
Read MoreHere's what happens when you have a big vision for your life in the world and you start moving towards it:
- You piss people off
- People misunderstand you and decide they don't want to work with you, don't like you or think you're crazy, irresponsible and rude. And unfair.
- You spend hours thinking, procrastinating and lying on your bed, the floor and in the bath with fuck all to show for it.
Read MoreIf you ever want insight into how I get stuff done, stay on track and generally make my life fabulous, well, please don't think I'm some kind of genius.
I'm not!
I get things wrong, procrastinate, and find myself in a place where I'm unclear on what's next too.
Read MoreSo I was chatting away at dinner the other day and I was talking about my Chemistry GCSE result (no, I can’t remember why). And I couldn’t remember what it was, so with a furrow in my brow was saying quizzically “Was it an A or a B? I think it was a B. I can’t remember."
My housemate just looked at me and said:
“You’re such a d*ck”
Read MoreI used to think being supported meant you were weak. That you didn't have the know how to do things by yourself - from start to finish, and therefore you were somewhat 'less than'.
I also had this idea that being supported in any kind of household chore was snobby and elitist. That you weren't fully in your 'role as a woman' if you outsourced anything 'householdy'.
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Why do you not have the life that you want?
Do you know?
I know that ANYONE can create the freedom-centred, joyful, fun-filled and adventurous life that they choose.
See, I've been through all the excuses myself - I don't have enough money, time, motivation, knowledge - whatever to get 'THERE'.
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What will you not let yourself have?
That piece of cake that's sitting in the office kitchen?
New underwear?
A gym membership?
A new phone?
Delighted to have been featured on MindBodyGreen this month:
The boiler had broken at work, and it was cold in the office. Usually the cheery chatterbox of the team, I had snapped at my colleagues. As I bent my head over my work, I could almost see the looks being exchanged and knew one of them was probably typing an email to the rest of the team saying "What is up with HER today?" My boss took me into a meeting room and asked me what was wrong.
The tears began to flow, and I poured out a story of everything being "a bit too much." She sent me home for a week.
Read the full article here
(http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-27698/how-i-healed-my-chronic-hip-pain-naturally.html)
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In my last post, I talked about the importance of a mindset practice to create new beliefs and ingrain them into your being, so you can create a whole new life for yourself. (If you missed it, it's here)
Read MoreYou've probably heard you have to do this to create the life that you want:
Have the right mindset
Undo the limiting beliefs
Believe that you can do it
It's all very well saying this - it's true by the way - our beliefs DO shape our reality, because we act on them, give off a 'vibe' based on what we believe and talk about what is true for us (all this putting into play the Law of Attraction as I mentioned last week - if you missed it, it's here)
BUT HOW DO YOU ACTUALLY GET THE RIGHT MINDSET???
You know those people who ALWAYS seem to get lucky?
The people who just have opportunities 'come' to them.
I used to be really JEALOUS of them.
I used to WISH I could be like them and have stuff drop in my lap.
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