The Top 5 reasons why people-pleasing women struggle in life*

The Top 5 reasons why people-pleasing women struggle in life*

Photo by Yuris Alhumaydy on Unsplash

*according to me.

1. Self-doubt. Constant doubt. Imposter syndrome. This affects their self-esteem, their relationships, their ability to take action.

2. A difficult relationship with resources (money, time etc). Thinking there's not enough for everyone. Not being able to think creatively. Fear of the consequences of saying no.

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My housemate called me a d*ck

My housemate called me a d*ck

So I was chatting away at dinner the other day and I was talking about my Chemistry GCSE result (no, I can’t remember why). And I couldn’t remember what it was, so with a furrow in my brow was saying quizzically “Was it an A or a B? I think it was a B. I can’t remember."

My housemate just looked at me and said: 

“You’re such a d*ck”

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Getting supported (Yes leaders need to eat!)

Getting supported (Yes leaders need to eat!)

I used to think being supported meant you were weak. That you didn't have the know how to do things by yourself - from start to finish, and therefore you were somewhat 'less than'.

I also had this idea that being supported in any kind of household chore was snobby and elitist. That you weren't fully in your 'role as a woman' if you outsourced anything 'householdy' (SO much in that but will leave that for another email).

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Who is looking after your dream?

Who is looking after your dream?

Image by Marta Pawlik. Used under a creative commons zero license. 

There is a horrible, inevitable ‘feeling’ you have when you keep grinding away at a job that you hate.

A ‘Will I ever get out of this?’ feeling. Of course, there is a possibility of redundancy. But if we ‘wait’ for something to change, we then realise…it’s only ourselves that is stopping us from moving forward. 

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