The undermining habits of 'helpful' women (and men)

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Are you a sensitive, helpful, community minded women (or man)?

How many of the below are true for you?

  • I do too much for the salary I am paid or rates I charge

  • I don't say 'no' enough

  • I often override the voice of my intuition or experience

  • I can often feel when something isn't right in my body but don't have the logic to 'justify' sharing it

  • I go 'over and above' as a standard service level (on every occasion)

  • I take more upon myself rather than relinquishing issues to decision makers

  • I overwork

  • I do tasks and jobs out of a sense obligation rather than because it’s in my job description

  • I take on additional duties because I can see the company/organisation 'needs' it rather than because my job description / pay grade has changed upwards

  • I accept a promotion without an increase in pay

  • I am afraid to have strong boundaries with clients or colleagues in case of pushback

  • I compromise my health and wellbeing, goals and aspirations for other people

Unless you change your thinking and habits, it's likely things will continue and you create the same results.

If these aren’t supportive to you - what has you continuing to do the same things? And if you know this is you, perhaps it's time to make some changes?

Ask yourself:

  • Where do I need to change the way I’m ‘being’ in a situation?

  • What does it look like when I’m showing up differently?

  • What help (advice/coaching/hand-holding etc) do I need to do that?

My best suggestion is to find a role model for the behaviours you want to change. It might take some deeper work - looking at your beliefs and ideas about who you are and the reasons behind holding and keeping those beliefs.

Yet it can be done, and in my experience, once you change, things change!

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