Why the patriarchy likes to control

Why the patriarchy likes to control

Photo by Rohan Makhecha on Unsplash

One of the most powerful things I've watched recently was the documentary 'I am Malala' - about Malala Yousafzai's story.

Although I had been following the news as it came through at the time, there was quite a lot about the family's Islamic faith and the history of the family that I hadn't been aware of.

I received it with some mixed feelings, seeing a young spiritual girl, who'd grown up within a patriarchal religion (albeit with a strong sense of self) standing up for equality, speaking her truth. I identified with some of her words and thoughts from my own experiences, other parts, way beyond my comprehension and experience.

Read More

I still don't look like Cameron Diaz (on crazy fears holding us back)

I still don't look like Cameron Diaz (on crazy fears holding us back)

Image by Milada Vigerova. Used under a creative commons zero licence. 

It can be such small things that hold us back. 

In my case, it was a haircut. It was REALLY getting me down that I was overdue. But I was putting it off because I was scared I was going to come out looking like a poodle. Or at least look a bit weird. 

After talking with my coachI realised that this needed to be a priority. Go get your hair cut, Claire. TODAY

Read More

If you don't know what to do, create

If you don't know what to do, create

It’s all too easy to let ourselves get into a headspin. When we want the life that we desire, that we dream about, when we want to make changes but it’s just overwhelming, it’s easy to choose the negative thoughts, the ones that say ‘It’ll never work’ and, 'I’ll never get there.’

Read More

Why we need your big dream

If I asked you, do you know what your vision for your life is? The one that will move people, touch lives, make things better?Dream big If not, is it because you have lost it? Is it because you're scared? Because you'll be disappointed if you can't have it? What about if you don't try to reach it? Will you be disappointed then?

Where your dissatisfaction with where you are now becomes a yearning that you can't get rid of, explore it. Investigate the anger you feel. Work through the pain. Look at the injustice you're outraged by. Pinpoint your feelings.

Why?

Why not just squash it down inside of you? Why not keep your mouth shut, ignore it, and hope it goes away?

Why?

Why not adhere to the people who say: "Can't you just get over it? Live a peaceful life and not bother anyone. Be happy with what you have."

Why?

We need that dream.

We need your gifts.

We need your commitment to hard work that manifests itself as laziness because at the moment you're just scared. Your laziness will melt away in the face of your excitement.

We need your vision that isn't yet defined because you're fearful it won't happen. We need it to inspire us and keep us going. Keep fighting the fear.

We need your compassion - the one that makes you stay and talk even though you need to make your deadline. Don't berate yourself for choosing to stay, know what value it has for them, the person who needs to talk. We need it to help us when we're feeling horrible.

We need your organisational skills - because they will to help make our dreams work. We need The Stationery Queen. We need it to make our businesses run more smoothly and our dreams to be realised.

We need the well-driller in you. We need the house builder. The artist. The facilitator. The events manager. The one inside you, that you don't dare yet to be or even think of. The one you long for.

We need your dream. Your big dream.

Punch fear in the face

Punch fear in the face

I didn't get it for ages that my procrastination, dithering, putting things off, taking the 'easy' route was because I was afraid to commit. When you commit, the stakes get higher, the fear doesn't go away. And in the words of Susan Jeffers, you've got to feel the fear and do it anyway!

Read More